I’m all grown up and I’m still looking for ways to be happy – every single day.
There were times when I wondered what I was searching for. Did I really want to live in a constant state of euphoria? I won’t deny it; I love it when someone praises me on a particular accomplishment. Who doesn’t? Was I seeking pure bliss, perhaps? You know, the feeling you get while being pampered at a luxury resort during your vacation. I like being on vacation, but I know I would not be fulfilled if that is all that life had to offer.
I find that both euphoria and bliss are part of being happy, but they are transitory, ebbing in and out of my life and dependent on some thing or someone.
What I seek every day is joy – that warm ethereal glow that bubbles up from my heart whenever I think about my sweetie or when I’m deeply grateful. It’s doing things that make me smile, knowing my life has meaning and that I am able to help someone in need. In a Huffington Post article, joy champion Mei Mei Fox says,
“Joy is what makes life beautiful. It’s what gets us through challenges and allows light in to illuminate the shadows. Joy heals our wounds, inspires us to greatness, and fills our souls with goodness.”(1)
For me, lasting happiness is an abiding contentment with life and with who I am. It includes moments of joy, euphoria and bliss. It is complex, it is personal, an artistry to be practiced daily.
It’s unrealistic to presume you and I can be happy all the time. Life happens. We’re human. I still have moments when I say the wrong thing, think life is unfair and host pity parties. But I no longer get up in the morning rehearsing in my mind everything that went wrong the day before. I don’t condemn myself, but rather I’ve learned to forgive and move on. I find myself happy way more often than I am not.
I like starting the month with a happiness list. It serves as an inspiration and reminder to me and anyone reading the post that even though life has a way of taking over, there are activities we can do to recognize moments of joy and train our happiness muscles. Here are some of the things I’m looking forward to in January.
* Extra minutes of daylight every single day!
* Decluttering my office.
* Writing thank you notes.
* A huge pot of hearty home-made SOUP!
* Yoga classes.
* Losing myself in a good book.
* The first sip of coffee in the morning.
* Hugging somebody!
Now it’s your turn. What would you include on your list? I really would like to know. Reply and share.
Happy January everyone!